I’m about to let you in on a little secret of mine (which I most likely have talked about before).
When I was younger, I believed in one certain truth that served me pretty well and was reinforced by all of the fairy tales I read:
“Good things will happen, and so will bad. Bad things will happen, and so will good. If you wait long enough, you’ll get them both, one after the other. So much so, you can depend on it.” So one good thing will happen…and then it is followed by a bad thing. And a bad thing will happen…and it is followed by a good thing. And so on and so on and so on. Until you live your entire life, waiting for the fog to roll in on a sunshiney day, and for the rain to clear on a stormy day. You’re always waiting for the next thing or hoping it doesn’t happen.
But I’ve realized that this is such an unrealistic way to live. It doesn’t matter if one moment is good or bad. It’s the moment that you’re living in, that you’re experiencing, that you’re discovering. And waiting for it to pass or having sadness when it does, is no way to live life. Just passing through your day is no way to live life. You need to thrive, and treasure every moment – not just the really good ones – and not cast away any one moment – like the really bad ones.
So, it’s true what they say – “if you’re going through hell, keep going.” But don’t worry about the hellscape you’re traveling through or coming from. Try to focus on the warmth of the flames every once in awhile. Your life will be better for it.
2 thoughts on “The Balance”
Well said. The bad along with the good makes us who we are. The bad shapes us and makes us stronger, while the good should be cherished and celebrated. Love this post 🙂
This reminds me of the old “feeding the wolf” analogy – which I think is usually used to describe optimism, and negativity. If they are both wolves, the one that wins is the one you feed…