I found this wonderful quote by Wayne Dyer today:
When you dance, your purpose isn't to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way.
I like this quote because it touches upon something that we all take advantage of: life. We race through the work week to get to Friday and the weekend. We stare at the clock, waiting to go somewhere else with someone else. All we do is try to waste time when we should be…well, living.
So I'd encourage you to dance. It's the only way to stop time completely. To say, I will enjoy this moment for the sole purpose that I'm alive and I'll shall ask for nothing more. I will enjoy this beat and this rhythm until it ends. And I will not wait for the next beat — I'll just dance right on through.
And don't forget that dancing is just usually fun in the first place so it's a great way to enjoy yourself anyway.
So, make time to dance. Turn up the music. And forget about time for awhile, except for the time you spend on your feet.
I was reminded today that you should never give up on what you want and what you love. Even when it feels like the entire universe is against it. Even if it doesn't work out right away. Even if it doesn't pay well (or anything at all).
Because doing what you love is why you get up in the morning and what makes you happy to go to bed at night. It simply makes life worth living.
And if you're not doing something you love everyday or working towards a goal, even just a small thing, then you're wasting your life. I can't say that enough. And I know, it's harsh, but it's true.
So, do me a favor and end everyday with something you love. (Hopefully you'll stay right here on this blog, but hey, you do you.)
Let me set the scene for you:
I’m walking to work in a major city…on a hot day with heels on. There are people right, left, and center. I’m not used to walking in heels, so I’m a little off balance to begin with. But then I am trying to get out of someone’s way so I speed up. My foot slips in my shoe, slicked with sweat, knocking me completely off balance until I fall onto my hands and knees.
I’m frustrated and annoyed. Not because I apparently don’t know how to walk, or because I suddenly feel 5 years old again when I would fall and skin my knee. No. Because not one person asked me if I was okay. Not one. They all let me fall and pick myself back up with no assistance offered.
Let me remind you, society, that you’re allowed to break the rat race script. If you see someone fall on your way to work, you can ask them if they’re okay. You don’t have to be afraid that I’ll murder your family if you talk to me. Just help me. Help someone in need.
If we do that, we can make life a little more human.
Today was rough. In about every way possible.
So today was not my day. But that’s okay. There’s always tomorrow.
But I know you’re saying, but Bailey what if tomorrow is no better? What if it’s just an endless string of bad days? What then?
Well, you just have to have hope. Because wherever there’s hope, there is a tomorrow.
I hope your tomorrow is great. And the day after that. And the day after that. And I hope it continues like that until you’ve had a great life.
Never mind a bad day. Just hope for a better tomorrow.
I’m sure I’ve written about this topic before (maybe even under the same name), but I think it bears repeating.
It’s not okay to be selfish. But it’s very okay to be self-ish. Let me explain.
Selfish means that you’re not in touch with the needs of others and that you put yourself before everyone else all of the time.
Self-ish means you’re in touch with the needs of others and that you put yourself before others some of the time. And that’s really it — some of the time, you need to take care of yourself. So be self-ish. Just ish. Just a little.
Take yours truly, for example. I’m what you call a workaholic. (I call it overachieving). But whatever you call it, it doesn’t change the fact that I feel guilty and ashamed when I take a lunch break. A break that is provided to everyone equally, but for some reason, is difficult for me to accept.
Now, I’m not selfish. I certainly don’t take a longer lunch break than anyone else. But I’m self-ish when I take a lunch break. I’m putting myself and my needs first some of the time when it’s needed.
So be self-ish sometimes, and you’ll find no reason to be selfish.
“It’s gonna pass like a kidney stone, but it’ll pass!”
All time passes. That’s the one thing we can count on. That when you’re having fun, time will have flown. And when you’re not, it’ll be all you can do just to kill time. But it trudges forward. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every week. Every month. Every year.
And that seems pretty foreboding. Sand in an hourglass kind of foreboding.
But notice I didn’t say every day. Because you can decide what happens in a single day. And hopefully, you’ll choose to recognize that your suffering is passing too and not just the good times. Because that’s the thing about time; it heals. It may rub salt in the wound first and leave a scar but it does heal.
I just hope you like how you spend your time. You will never get more of it, but you’ll learn to do more with less.
I think, as a human, it’s hard to be nice to yourself sometimes. But add in the fact that you’re a rather awkward and clumsy human…and it gets harder.
So, we all need to remind ourselves that we’re not all that bad. And sometimes, we’re even that good. And here’s how you do it:
1. Find a mirror. Look yourself in the eye. And smile. (I bet you can’t resist smiling back!)
2. Take yourself out for a treat. Ice cream. Chocolate. Broccoli. However you define “treat.”
3. Wrap yourself in a blanket so your whole body is inside the blanket. Roll around the floor a couple of times. Call yourself a burrito.
4. Read a book out loud to yourself before you go to bed. It’ll remind you of what it was like to have a bedtime story read for you.
5. Take a shower or a bath. Or just wash your hands in warm water. It’ll feel good.
6. Watch cute animal videos. Actually, make a habit of watching cute animal videos. They’re good for the soul.
7. Take a walk around your neighborhood. Count fireflies. Say hello to people. (But don’t overthink it.)
8. Watch a movie or tv show that you just love. Stay in the moment. Really watch it, like it’s the first time.
9. Talk to a friend. Vent. Then let them take care of you for a little while. Just until you feel better.
10. Take one deep breath. Take another. And another. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best that you can.
“Stop and smell the roses.”
I always thought that meant that you should appreciate beauty in the world, wherever you find it. Or acknowledge living things when you can.
But that’s not really what it’s saying.
Stop and smell the roses means that you’re staying in the moment. You’re not worrying about what you are doing next week or the next moment. You’re simply admiring what life has to offer in this one.
I’d encourage you to do more stopping and sniffing. You may never know when you can do it again.
Being an adult, I’ve noticed that I don’t have time for the things I used to do when I was younger. Coloring and writing poetry, to name a few. Sliding on slides and swinging on swings, to name a few more.
So, I thought maybe it’s time I did those things again. But as an adult. Especially poetry.
Let’s try it.
An Ode to Adulthood
Why am I so tired?
I barely did anything tod–
But I did write 3 emails
And received 10 more
That I’m now anxious about answering.
And I did get up
For a drink, for a walk, for a deep breath
For a return to normalcy.
And I did clean my desk
Because I was tired of looking at
Clutter. And then
I made a list of all the things I had to do
After I get home from work.
And I am tired
Of being an adult.
Faeries are a rich, mythical part of many cultures (especially Ireland). These omnipotent yet playful beings were blamed for just about everything (from miscarriages to spoiled milk). But despite being powerful, there was one way to have sway over a fairy — you must know it’s real name. You must invoke it, like a spell.
But this is not really an old nor mythical concept, is it? The idea that giving something its proper name makes it so much easier to manage. Less scarier. More mundane.
Now, I’m not saying that if a bear was coming toward you, and you were able to identify it as a sun bear that it would make it a less scary situation. But I am saying that there is something to knowing your fear’s name. Because it becomes less frightening when it is known.
Which is why so many people are afraid of the dark. It represents everything that is unknown. And to which our mind applies our darkest fears — monsters under the bed, loss of sight, relying on our hearing when we have headphones on.
I’m here to tell you that it’s totally okay to be afraid of the dark.
What’s not okay is not facing it anyway, despite your fear. It’s not okay to look at the dark and turn on the lights, to avoid it.
Facing your fear, any fear, is almost the only way to overcome it. Doing a little of what scares you each day and you can get past it, so start small and you’ll find that you can conquer big fears this way.
Now, lights out.