Sour Grapes

So I didn’t have the best day today. My dog chewed my new shoes and I got really angry. Not at her, it wasn’t her fault. Just at myself for leaving them out in the open.

And my mind did this thing where I was really angry and then I was thinking up excuses about why I wasn’t really in love with those shoes anyway.

And to some people, this may sound like sour grapes. You know, the fox can’t get the grapes so he says they are sour anyway.

But I’d like to offer a different perspective: I’d like to think that this gut reaction of my brain is a more evolved, adultier way to deal with my problems. A quiet optimism if you will.

So the next time something unfortunate befalls you, try flipping the situation around and asking why you were angry in the first place. Has something else been bothering you? What else is on your mind? Then, ask yourself, did you really need to react that way in the first place?

Try the sour grapes. They are delicious.



Love Them Harder

I think we can all say that we’re having a hard time out here in quarantine.

Everybody has their bad days, but we seem to have a string of them in a row. People are cranky, they’re tired, they’re whiny.

Oh, and that’s just the adults. Don’t get me started on the kids.

But on days like these, there is one clear message: the harder the day, the harder you have to love them.

So, if you’re angry, upset, anxious, you are in need of love. From yourself, from a friend, or from family. Remind people around you that instead of getting mad at you for your anger, your mood, or your anxiety, that you need love. Now more than ever.

Keep extending love to those who need it, and those who need it the most.



On the Wrong Side

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.

No matter what I did, I was annoyed and angry and tired, and I got up out of a warm bed with a chip on my shoulder.

But there’s one key thing you should remember: it doesn’t matter how you start your day, it only matters how you finish it.

So, anyway you take it, you don’t have to stay with a bad day. You can choose to change your day and your attitude. Just like that.

So, if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, or you’re on the wrong side of the fence, or if you just feel wrong, then don’t worry.

It won’t last.



Still A Chance

Have you ever woke up on the “wrong side of the bed”?

Of course you have. You wake up and you’re just angry. You’re not sure about what yet but then the bathroom is occupied, and then you notice there’s no milk, and you drop your keys when you’re heading out the door, and burn yourself on your coffee mug, and you trip up the stair, and now you’re just hulking out. 

And no matter what you do, you just can’t shake the feeling that if maybe, just maybe, you didn’t get out of bed this morning nothing like this would have happened. 

I certainly think about this. And I did, this morning. It was just one of those days that everything went wrong and I wished, and begged, and pleaded for a reset button. For a Groundhogs Day moment. Just once. So I could see where life could bring me if I didn’t have to deal with whatever today was. 

But then, I had a good middle of my day. I saw my friends and my mood lightened. And I had a good end to my day. My fiancĂ©e and I spent some time eating dinner together and enjoying each other’s company. 

And I realized, that in every day, in every hour, and even in every moment, there’s still a chance it can get better. Sometimes it most assuredly doesn’t. But still other times, it does. And I love that. I love that you can be so desperately sad at one point, and then the next, something makes you smile. It’s unpredictable and ever changing and it’s life. 

So please don’t give up. This may not be your moment. But there’s still a chance that the next one will be.