Dear Brides on their Wedding Day

My sister is getting married this weekend in a small ceremony that uses social distancing and some homemade touches.

And I know this is not the wedding day she planned. Or even the Plan B. And I know right now it’s hard to have anything happy in these times in which nobody feels like celebrating.

But this is my message to brides:

Hold on to this moment. Even amidst the pain and confusion. Even amidst the virus and the pandemic. Even amidst the peace and the justice.

This is not the moment you wanted. It’s not the moment you planned. But it is your moment. And it is as good as any to breathe in happiness and exhale negativity. And that’s all you need to get married. You just need a moment to reach out and take your happiness.

I hope you recognize it for the precious moment it is. Whether you are surrounded by hundreds of people or just a few. Whether it is in your backyard or at a fancy wedding venue. Whether you are writing your vows or taking age-old ones.

You are marrying the person you love. And nothing can take that from you.

Love,

Bailey

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Right now, everything seems like it’s a bit out of hand. The number of hours you spend in front of a screen of any kind, the way people are grocery shopping, the number of times you look in the fridge just to see if “there are any snacks.”

Everything seems to be out of your control, or CTRL as I like to call it.

But it is at these times that focusing on things that are in your control is most helpful to keep anxiety down and a sense of well-being up.

So, let’s practice:

Coronavirus? Out of your control. No, really. It is. Completely out of yours and, everyone else’s, control.

Coronavirus in your home? In your control. Because you can wash your hands, wash surfaces, and generally social distance from everyone around you.

Work from home? Out of your control. You didn’t decide that you had to work from home. Coronavirus did. (And if you’d like to see if coronavirus is in your control, please see the the first line.)

Work from home routine? In your control. Make a promise to yourself that you’ll get up on time everyday and change out of those pajamas, and generally stick to your old normal.

Closed schools? Out of your control. Did you decide to close schools? No, your elected officials did.

Homeschooling? In your control. Well, as much as teaching a child can be called “in control.”

So, whatever you are doing during this self-quarantine, don’t worry about things out of your control. Look around and see what you can do that is in your control. I promise you’ll feel way better.

Love,

Bailey

P.S. I’m sorry if I’m focusing too much on COVID-19 lately. But it’s kinda on everyone’s minds, including mine. I’ll try to keep distracting you from the outside world as much as possible in future posts.

P.P.S.

Love,

Me again

You Need to Calm Down

There’s a lot to fear in this world of ours. COVID-19 being the latest. But there’s one unified piece of message that you should be listening to from doctors and the CDC and it’s also what Taylor Swift had the foresight to say before I could say it:

You need to calm down.              

And you know, wash your hands. But Taylor Swift hasn’t sung about that yet.

Now, I know it’s scary. Especially because it’s spreading so fast and there’s no working vaccine. But we all need to, as humanity, agree that fear isn’t helping anything. A little fear is okay. That’s enough to get you to wash your hands for the full 20 seconds. But this all-encompassing, buying hand sanitizer until it’s gone, fear is just stirring the pot.

And believe me, I know what you’re thinking: But you’re Bailey Dailey! You’re supposed to look on the bright side of everything! or Stay in your lane, blogger.

And I get that. But if you’re reading this, then a small part of you wants to escape from the scary outside world of ours and you can definitely do that, if only you take a deep breath and calm down.

It’s only natural to worry about loved ones and our global citizens during this trying time. But working yourself up will only compromise your immune system.

So, if you can’t do it for me, then do it for T Swift.

Love,

Bailey