What’s Easy

I challenge you to do something very difficult.

I challenge you to not do anything easy in your life.

For example…

You’re behind a young woman in a line for coffee (there’s always a line for coffee). You can’t see her face, but she has tattoos all over her arms. She’s wearing all black. You can’t see them all, but you can tell she has multiple piercings in her ears.

The easy thing would be to assume¬†anything¬†about her. That she’s a degenerate. That’s she’s super nice and chill.

But remember, I want you to stay away from anything easy in life.

So, what’s the hard thing in this situation?

Getting to know her. Striking up a conversation in the coffee line. And while first impressions aren’t always the best, you’ll learn so much more than you ever could by just assuming things about her.

I want you to do this whenever possible.

It’s easy to gossip about your coworkers. It’s easy to tear down an ex. It’s easy to be a small person.

It’s easy to be mean to others when you feel that some wrong has been done to you.

But I promise that the hard things, the learning, the taking a step back, the inhaling of a deep breath, will be worth it. And someday, they may become easier. They just won’t start out that way.

Give Them Something

Everyone gossips. Everyone. 

They’re all like:

I hear she got a nose job.

Yeah? Well, I heard she got a boob job. 

No way? I hear she has a job

And on and on. And if you think that no one gossips about you, then you’re straight up lying to yourself. Your family does it, your friends do it. Not in a bad way, just in a I want to make sure Bailey is alright because I want her to be happy and healthy – have you heard anything to the contrary kind of way. 

And so, if they’re already talking about you, why not give them something to talk about? People get so bent out of shape when people talk behind their backs, but that’s the wrong way to look at it. Let that free you. Because they’re gonna talk. If they’re going to talk about you, at least make it entertaining. Be yourself and make it fun. 

And after all, that’s how urban legends are born: from talk. My one life goal (other than to write a bestselling book) is to become an urban legend. I want everything to be like Practical Magic, where the neighborhood spreads rumors about you that you’re a witch and you probably dance naked in the moonlight and vote democrat and all that. I’m living for that day. 

So, go ahead and talk about me. But at least have something interesting to say.