How To Give This Holiday Season

It does not matter what you celebrate. There is always a moment in the holiday season when you will say, “Crap. I didn’t get something for so and so.” Or “So and so bought me something, but I didn’t get something for them.” And you end up re-gifting something in your own closet or bookshelf just because you don’t want them to think that you are a bad person or that you weren’t thinking of them.

Unfortunately, I can’t help you with that little scenario above. That is going to happen until the end of time. I bet cavemen even did that. Like, Ugh, I got a rock for Bah, but she did not get anything for me. I’m going to write about this on my cave wall diary. 

Because people are forgetful to start with and that will only increase every year around this time.

But I can help you with deciding whether you should get someone a present in the first place. You know, when you aren’t sure if you should give a gift because of some awkward etiquette rules or because you think that they won’t get you something in return. Well, I’m going to make this seriously easy for you. Do it. Get them something. Something small, if you must. But just go ahead and do it.

Why?

Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting a gift for someone that has made your day or helped you along the way. Don’t think of it as a preemptive strike. Just think of it as putting good vibes out there. Making someone smile. There’s nothing wrong with that after all, and as far as I can tell, there will never be.

Your mailperson, zumba instructor, favorite barista, co-worker, boss, dog groomer, toll taker, pizza delivery person, masseuse, hairstylist, or caddy will not forget that you thought of them this holiday season.

So, forget the rules. Forget that it might make a situation awkward. Instead, think more of what conversations it could start up. What you might gain from a thoughtful gift between you and a new friend.

Think of what could be, instead of what is. That is what the holiday season is all about.

It’s Time

That’s right. It’s time.

And I bet you already know what I’m talking about.

It’s holiday season. Yes, we have blown past shrieking banshees and rotting pumpkins to egg nog and fa la la. So fast, many of you have received an unceremonious case of whiplash. You sit on social media, and ask where the time went and grumpily scrooge your way through a status update.

But let’s be honest. Just between you and me, and well, the rest of my followers…

But let’s keep it here. What are you really angry about?

Because I know it isn’t the holiday season that is making you frustrated. Yes, I know some of the cheer has been watered down by the capitalists (the department store Santas and the holiday deals), but this is the time of year when everyone falls in love with each other. Everyone is just a little more caring and kind. I mean, we have about a month’s worth of  songs dedicated to the season. (And B101 wastes no time playing all of them so that you hate them by December).

Seriously, do you really mean to tell me that you’ve been playing Halloween movies and hanging up spiderwebs for the entire month of October, but now it is hard to conceive of yourself eating turkey in a few weeks or celebrating the festival of lights in a little longer time than that? Let’s be honest with ourselves, people. The holiday season is upon us, whether we like it or not.

And by the way, you should like it. This is the time to enjoy your friends and family, to stop focusing on school and work, to eat cookies, and light lights, and smile into each other’s  faces. What’s not to love?

So, cut it out with your Bah Humbug! Embrace the inevitable, and stop putting the missiles in “mistletoe.”