People change a lot over the years. And more than just from child to grown-up. New friends come, old friends go. Habits die hard, and people go through trauma and defeat to get out on the other side whole and new.

I personally now love Taylor Swift, when I used to hate her. I listen to her music in the shower all of the time.

Okay, okay, I’ve changed in other ways too. I want different things out of life than I used to. I love dyeing my hair different colors to fit my mood. I’m not so embarrassed of myself like I used to be when I was younger.

People change. And we all need to remember that change is coming for all of us. We can’t go back to the “normal” we once had, it wasn’t working for us. Because change broadens our horizons and helps us to grow, whether musically or otherwise.

So, if you’re a little uncomfortable right now, scared and uncertain, that’s okay. That’s just you growing wings where there was nothing before. And soon enough, you’ll be able to fly.



You Need to Calm Down

There’s a lot to fear in this world of ours. COVID-19 being the latest. But there’s one unified piece of message that you should be listening to from doctors and the CDC and it’s also what Taylor Swift had the foresight to say before I could say it:

You need to calm down.              

And you know, wash your hands. But Taylor Swift hasn’t sung about that yet.

Now, I know it’s scary. Especially because it’s spreading so fast and there’s no working vaccine. But we all need to, as humanity, agree that fear isn’t helping anything. A little fear is okay. That’s enough to get you to wash your hands for the full 20 seconds. But this all-encompassing, buying hand sanitizer until it’s gone, fear is just stirring the pot.

And believe me, I know what you’re thinking: But you’re Bailey Dailey! You’re supposed to look on the bright side of everything! or Stay in your lane, blogger.

And I get that. But if you’re reading this, then a small part of you wants to escape from the scary outside world of ours and you can definitely do that, if only you take a deep breath and calm down.

It’s only natural to worry about loved ones and our global citizens during this trying time. But working yourself up will only compromise your immune system.

So, if you can’t do it for me, then do it for T Swift.




What I Learned from Hating Taylor Swift

That’s right. I consider myself one of the original Taylor Swift haters. I am sipping on that haterade when it comes to T Swift. I’m seeing red when it comes to “Red.” And before you jump down my throat and try to defend America’s sweetheart, I think you should listen to what I have to say. You might like it.

Well, first, let’s clear the air. I originally just disliked Taylor Swift’s music. Repetitive lyrics and annoying hooks just aren’t my cup of tea. But I could avoid it. I could change the channel on the radio station. I could coexist in a world who absolutely freakin’ adored her.

But then she started to show up on my television and in my social media. And she was making money off of being awkward and angry. (That’s me! I can be awkward and angry better than anyone! Why aren’t thousands of people following my Instagram account?) And don’t get me started about what she said about my girl Nicki Minaj recently. Let’s just say it wasn’t cool on any level.

But I have to admit, she has made it harder for me to hate her. I started to hear how much she appreciated her fans and how she would go out of her way to meet them. I thought that was more than great; I thought it was awesome. And then she came out with “Bad Blood,” and I became obsessed with my first Taylor Swift song. She’s a master of those anthems that you can sing along to in the car, speeding down the highway, with the windows down and your hair flying into your mouth.

At this point, I was completely confused. It felt like my reality was unravelling, and I was having an identity crisis. It was one of those things that I built the core of my being around: I love flannel shirts, I’ve never had my nails done, and I hate Taylor Swift.

Yet, the point is, I learned something really important about hating people by hating Taylor Swift. I learned that even if you don’t know them, even if they are strangers and you think that you couldn’t hate anyone more, the truth is, you probably could. Because there will always be some characteristic or trait that you do like about them. And so really, there isn’t any such thing as hate when it comes to people you don’t really know. There’s just…distaste until proven better.

Now, I’m not buying a T Swift t-shirt any time soon. I’m not even going to buy her album. But I no longer want to send her to live with the Mars colony. Unless she tries to “white feminist” her way out of anything again.

I guess me and T don’t have “bad blood” anymore. (Oh my god, forgive me. That was awful, but I had to.)