My sister is getting married this weekend in a small ceremony that uses social distancing and some homemade touches.
And I know this is not the wedding day she planned. Or even the Plan B. And I know right now it’s hard to have anything happy in these times in which nobody feels like celebrating.
But this is my message to brides:
Hold on to this moment. Even amidst the pain and confusion. Even amidst the virus and the pandemic. Even amidst the peace and the justice.
This is not the moment you wanted. It’s not the moment you planned. But it is your moment. And it is as good as any to breathe in happiness and exhale negativity. And that’s all you need to get married. You just need a moment to reach out and take your happiness.
I hope you recognize it for the precious moment it is. Whether you are surrounded by hundreds of people or just a few. Whether it is in your backyard or at a fancy wedding venue. Whether you are writing your vows or taking age-old ones.
You are marrying the person you love. And nothing can take that from you.
There’s a lot to fear in this world of ours. COVID-19 being the latest. But there’s one unified piece of message that you should be listening to from doctors and the CDC and it’s also what Taylor Swift had the foresight to say before I could say it:
You need to calm down.
And you know, wash your hands. But Taylor Swift hasn’t sung about that yet.
Now, I know it’s scary. Especially because it’s spreading so fast and there’s no working vaccine. But we all need to, as humanity, agree that fear isn’t helping anything. A little fear is okay. That’s enough to get you to wash your hands for the full 20 seconds. But this all-encompassing, buying hand sanitizer until it’s gone, fear is just stirring the pot.
And believe me, I know what you’re thinking: But you’re Bailey Dailey! You’re supposed to look on the bright side of everything! or Stay in your lane, blogger.
And I get that. But if you’re reading this, then a small part of you wants to escape from the scary outside world of ours and you can definitely do that, if only you take a deep breath and calm down.
It’s only natural to worry about loved ones and our global citizens during this trying time. But working yourself up will only compromise your immune system.
So, if you can’t do it for me, then do it for T Swift.