…then you haven’t seen me.
That’s how you have to think about yourself. Constantly reinventing.
Okay, so you’re not Madonna. But you do have new challenges and new constraints to work with everyday. So, it’s important that you see yourself in a new way when you can. And more than that, you should be believing that you can do it.
It could be anything — new clothes, a new haircut, anything! Any time you can re-evaluate who you are and what your new limits can be then you can start fresh. You can fall in love with yourself for the first time or for the first time in awhile.
So, take opportunities to reinvent yourself seriously. It’ll affect how you see yourself and how others see you. After all, you never know who you can be until you try.
So, who are you, really? Go ahead. Introduce yourself.
What do you like? Love? Hate? Believe in? What are your experiences? What are your fears, and hopes, and dreams?
I bet you can answer all of that relatively quickly. So, why does that suddenly go out of the window when you’re trying to find a new job or meet new friends? Why do you have to be someone you are quote unquote “not?”
I get it. First impressions are big so you can’t talk about your UFO theory immediately upon meeting someone new. But if that’s who you are, then that’s who you should continue to be. Ease into yourself, but don’t erase your identity.
And by the way? You should be searching for jobs and friends that allow you to be who you are, naturally. That allow you to move in the circles and skills that are comfortable to you.
Why? Because nothing can change who you are at your core. This is both a comforting and terrifying thought: it’s great because you can always rely on yourself. It’s awful because the people who have “changed” around you, probably haven’t.
But the only thing that matters here is who you think you are. If you like that person, then great. Everything else is just perspective.